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Confessions of a Mommy Fraud February 23, 2005 So I went to my bookclub meeting last night and there were only a few of us there. We got to talking about ourselves personally (as women who are relative strangers seem to have no problem doing) and about our children. One of the ladies there had a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 month old, and the other had a 2 year old with one on the way. As I was hearing myself tell stories about Bear (being the youngest, her stories seemed to relate more to the topics of discussion), I got this really wierd self-aware vibe going on and I felt like SUCH a fraud! I didn't give birth to my girls, but I sure as heck spend as much time with them as their birth mother does, and I parent them just as much (if not more). I've lived through potty training, speech and vocabulary milestones, growing pains, illnesses, sleepless nights, and any number of other significant points in their lives. And while neither of these women in my bookclub ever said a word to me to challenge me on my motherhood, I still found myself feeling defensive and a bit foolish. So why do I feel so uncomfortable saying I'm a mother/acting like a mother around "real moms"? I guess if their birth mother wasn't still in the picture, it would be easier, but even though I'm not the one that gave birth, I'm still a mother. Right? Anyone? After reading Dooce and Mimi Smartypants and Chez Miscarriage and numerous other mother bloggers, I've seen that mothers scrutinize themselves more than each other (if that's even possible, considering how much scrutiny is passed around in the mommy circles). Anyway.. It was just an eye opener I guess to catch myself in the same act. Even though I feel like their mother, I wonder when I'll allow myself to call myself one. (maybe when I quit giggling everytime I write mother and mentally add "f--ker"?) posted by LoneStarCupcake @ 3:27 PM 
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